From J***

Extracts from a book..

[but we also add to our own suffering in other ways.
All too often we perpetuate our pain, keep it alive, by replaying our hurts over and over again in our minds, magnifying our injustices in the process.
We repeat our painful memories with the unconscious perhaps wish that somehow it will change the situation - but it never does.
Of course, sometimes this endless recounting of our woes can serve a limited purpose; it can add drama and a certain excitement to our lives, or elicit attention and sympathy from others.
But this seems like a poor trade-off for the unhappiness we continue to endure.]